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Calling All Demisexuals

🕑 Added 2024-06-12 08:44:38 +0000 UTC

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QuintessentialNerd

For me its a combination of shared humor, banter, knowledge of each other and affection. That easy feeling of comfort and playfulness of hanging out with someone you really enjoy and who you can relax with. When you have little games you've made up with each other or references or jokes and then theres a shift, a bloom of desire, of wanting to play in different ways. Depending on the person it can come out as a surge of passion, or a playful primal teasing aggression, or an intense intimacy of wanting to touch, or a gentle new uncertainty.

butmaybeyes

For my spouse, something that goes a long way is being very very clear that if things aren't matching up, it's okay to stop/turn back/not go as far. He's somewhere between demi & ace though.

Nerdo_Puppo22

For me, even after wanting to be sexual with my partner it like comes in waves for me. Sometimes I don't want anything sexual, so to still have intamacy we will give each other massages or just feel each other's body in a loving way while cuddling. Sometimes I want to please my partner but not be pleasured myself, and then sometimes I'm just as sexual as they are. There's lots of verbal checking just to make sure I'm still comfortable (especially if we're going from foreplay to penetration), lots of kisses across my body, and verbal expressions of love and care to make it more intimate and personal.

Noodle

In my experience what is best is a lot of praise, compliments, gentle touches and going slow and intimate and such. Also being close without having to immediately escalate to sexual tension is great, but at the same time that a long build up is amazing, a short build up can be good if it is clear there is an established relationship between the two characters.

Pup Senpai

I'm Asexual, not Demisexual so not totally the same but I'd think it would definitely require slow build up well-established relationship ofc characterization of small personality quirks that the listener loves possibly. Demisexual is usually a dynamic in which it's the relationship and connection that drives the sexual aspects so any hints to things like that would be fitting, very personality-driven I guess I'd imagine any sexual situation would come about more so from an overflow of love and feeling connected and not something physical. In simpler terms Cute rather than Hot

JackStagger

Personality is a BIG one for me. I can be kinky, I can be nasty, but who they are on a deeper level is so much hotter than the visuals can be—in turn, parts of their body, clothes etc. becomes sexy when they come to represent a part of the person. Being heard and understood deeply is also a massive one! About the fastest “click” I ever had was when someone hit on me for—I’ll keep it short, but it was very much that the things he said he liked about me represented what I felt were the best parts of myself. That “click” of attraction itself varies for me. It can sometimes be subtle—other times I go from casually dating to ready to bone in the space of a second, like one of those comedy bits where someone gets tackled by a horny partner. I like subtlety, and I like depth. I like it when the relationship feels honest and real. I like domesticity even in wild cyberpunk fantasies, because every day with a partner is an adventure.

GrinningPup

It does, thank you!

Aksel

For me it is when you can hear that the characters know each other and their relation evolve into something more

KodaKatt

I think for me it would definitely be a more plot heavy one? Like more time to learn the character like the character and love the character rather than just sex almost immediately (I hope that made sense 😭)